Breaking Up and Making Up

It all seems so juvenile.

It makes you wonder why people choose to get back together when they obviously couldn't handle it in the first place. What changes during the days apart? Why do they risk wasting their time again?
I once went out with a man who said that once a couple have broken up then that should be it, when a person even just thinks of breaking up then that should be it.

This leads me to one question: 'What is it that you see in the other person for you to even consider risking your heart, your pride and self-worth? Why risk putting yourself through the pain and the anguish of breaking up again, just when you mended your heart and pulled yourself together again?'

Is it blind love/stupidity? I am sure we have all seen this situation over and over again. The poor hopeless being that can't think of anyone else. They can't see their lives without that person in it. No matter the hell they have been through, it must have been something that they have done wrong themselves. This person would do anything to make it work, change themselves, forever feel guilty for something, be forever making excuses at the behaviour of the other.

Could it be a time issue where age has suddenly come upon them? We see this is both men and women with one thing in common; they are childless. They worry about running out of time, women especially. I mean, I am only 30 but I do have thoughts where I don't think I will ever have the opportunity to become a mother. I have a male friend who broke up with his girlfriend to be with someone who had a child and then went back to his girlfriend because he wanted a child of his own. He swallowed his pride and she took him back. Ugh.

Or maybe it is more where I am? I look at the situation as a whole. I am confident enough to say that I have always known that this is the man I am going to spend the rest of my life with. And this knowledge is reciprocated. A woman is supposed to know, right? Well, this woman knows.